Tottenham manager Ange Postecoglou has called for an end to the questioning of officials' decisions in order to prevent their authority being undermined.
Spurs had two players sent off in Monday's 4-1 defeat - their first loss of the Premier League season - at home to Chelsea but their Australian boss refused to criticise referee Michael Oliver.
However, after a first half which had 12 minutes of added time due to several VAR checks, Postecoglou said he felt football is battling with overuse of technology.
Arsenal manager Mikel Arteta called Newcastle's winning goal on Saturday against his team after three VAR checks a "disgrace", with his club issuing a statement calling for the standard of officiating to be "urgently addressed".
"(Lengthy VAR pauses) are going to become the norm, it's where the game is heading," Postecoglou said.
"Unfortunately it's how we're going to have to watch and participate in football from now on.
"I don't like it. I don't like the standing around, the whole theatre around waiting for decisions. But I know I'm in the wilderness on that."
Spurs had led through Dejan Kulusevski's sixth-minute deflected goal against Chelsea and had a second effort, from Son Heung-min, ruled out for offside by VAR.
But when Cristian Romero was sent off for a 35th-minute challenge on Enzo Fernandez - which allowed Cole Palmer to equaliser from the penalty spot - the game changed and a reckless second yellow card for Destiny Udogie early in the second half left the hosts with an uphill battle.
"In my 26 years, I was always prepared to accept the referee's decision - good, bad or otherwise. I've had some shockers in my career. I've had some go my way as well," Postecoglou said.
"I'll cop that because I just want the game to be played. But when we're complaining about defections every week, this is what's going to happen.
"People are going to forensically scrutinise everything to make sure they're comfortable it's right - and even at the end of that, we're still not happy.
"It's just diminishing the authority of the referee. You can't tell me referees are in control of games. They're not. You have to accept it and try and deal with it."
Nine-man Tottenham held out until the 75th minute when Nicolas Jackson scored the first goal of his hat-trick, adding two more deep into added time.
"It's hard to analyse from a football perspective," Postecoglou said.
"We're left with a result which is disappointing, but super-proud of the players' efforts and will and desire to get something from the game."
